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More About Making Amends

Potentially the only disease to devastate integrity, alcoholism causes the sufferer to undergo complete moral corruption. The seemingly solid set of moral standards that were instilled at a young age are rapidly depleted, and we become warped shells of our former selves. Getting the next drink or drug quickly becomes our ultimate priority, and we…

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Making Amends – All in Due Time

It all hits us, hard and fast and at once. Finally, our minds are clear, and the damage we have done while enslaved by chemical substance comes rushing back in a vivid, painful tidal wave of shame and self-loathing. The people we carelessly hurt, the moral standards we so readily compromised – we are slapped…

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Benefits of Meditation

What images does your mind conjure when you think of meditation? A man sitting cross-legged atop a mountain, humming to himself as he attempts to become one with the surrounding trees? A Buddhist monk, bald-headed and robed, chanting loudly as he fondles a string of ancient prayer beads? Many of us assume that meditation is…

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What is Psychotherapy?

Psychotherapy, also known as ‘talk therapy’, is one of the most widely utilized forms of mental health treatment, and has proven to be an absolutely essential component of effective addiction recovery. Essentially, psychotherapy is designed to treat those suffering from mental disorders through helping them to better understand the implications of their illness, which allows…

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Common Psychological Defense Mechanisms

Essentially, defense mechanisms are manners in which we behave or think that protect us from a full awareness of unpleasant feelings. Psychologists have categorized defense mechanisms based on how primitive they are – the more primitive, the less effective in the long-term. However, primitive defense mechanisms are typically exceptionally effective in the short-term, which is…

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Healing the Inner Child – Facing Codependency

When we are small children, we live in a world of adventure and excitement. Everything is big and new and fascinating, and we have very few fears or reservations – we feel safe and secure, and our main objective is to unabashedly explore. According to Pia Mellody, preeminent authority in the fields of addiction and…

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The Importance of Inner Child Work

No matter how old you are, or how self-reliant, strong, and wise, there is a little child deep within you who needs love, affection, and acceptance. When we are children and something goes wrong, we tend to adopt the idea that there is something wrong with us as individuals. If we are neglected or abused…

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Admitting Powerlessness

It is quite easy to overestimate the amount of control we have in our own lives (and, in many cases, in the lives of others). As addicts and alcoholics, we like to believe that we are in a position of high authority, conducting our lives as we see fit. The notion of predestination and the…

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Alcoholism – The ‘Family Disease’

Alcoholism is often referred to as a ‘family disease’, and not merely because the disorder is hereditary. Alcoholism greatly impacts the stability of the home while devastating the mental and emotional health of everyone involved. The disease works to destroy family unity and enhance dysfunction, deeply marring long-standing family dynamics – sometimes to the point…

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Managing Your Emotions

As addicts and alcoholics, we are used to living in extremes. For us, it is typically either all or nothing. The world we live in is black and white, and those we come into contact with are either with us or against us. Think back to a time while you were still very active in…