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The Danger of a Sober Resolution

The seeking of constant self-improvement is a favored American pastime. We love to do things that make us look and feel better – a fact that is almost always mirrored in the latest health-related trends. Last year, we had juice fasts, hot yoga, and spin classes. It has been predicted that 2017 will see a…

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Consequences of Enmeshment and Narcissistic Parenting

Enmeshment refers to a dysfunctional state where two of more people suffer from an extreme lack of critical personal boundaries. In most cases, enmeshment will occur between a parent and a child, though it can occur between adult couples or entire families. A narcissistic parent can be defined as a parent who is possessive of,…

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What Is a Resolution?

Before the start of each new year, we review the past twelve months in full, pondering our general progress as human beings and critically looking at areas that require immediate improvement. We formulate an idealistic list, full of bad habits we wish to entirely abandon and good habits we hope to simultaneously adopt. It has…

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Staying Sober on New Years Eve

After an extended period of time in recovery, staying sober essentially becomes second nature. The obsession is lifted, life gets full and good, and it is often not too difficult to avoid temptation altogether. We just go about our day-to-day lives, and things conveniently fall into place around us. Every so often we get invited…

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Enmeshment and The Family

When enmeshment is present within a family unit, over-concern for others often leads to a complete loss of autonomy and personal development, boundaries are constantly overlooked or diffused, and sub-systems remain undifferentiated. A child who is trapped in an enmeshed relationship with his or her parent will either be used to satiate emotional needs, or…

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Finding Fulfillment in Working with Others

“Our very lives, as ex-problem drinkers, depend upon our constant thought of others and how we may help meet their needs.” – Alcoholics Anonymous, Page 20 No matter how much I drank, I never felt satisfied – I always felt a gnawing void in the pit of my stomach, one that would relentlessly scream for…

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How Early Childhood Trauma Can Cause Addiction

Substance use disorder, also known as addiction, is actually a quite complex condition. Every person usually has a choice to first try substances like alcohol or other drugs, but some people are simply more susceptible to eventually becoming dependent on or addicted to substances or addictive behaviors (such as gambling or internet addiction). Most clinicians…

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Addiction and The Family

Addiction is not merely about drinking to excess and using drugs. Addiction profoundly affects the behavior of the addict, as well as his or her thinking patterns, emotional well-being, and spiritual health. Essentially, addiction will contaminate every area of life, spreading like a contagion and infecting the lives of others as it does. You, the…

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The Truth About Love Addiction

Of all behavioral addictive disorders, love addiction is perhaps the most difficult to understand and accept. Gambling addiction, for example, is relatively straightforward. The afflicted either spends too much time at the casino, compulsively purchases scratch off tickets, or begins losing his marriage to a seemingly strange inability to stay away from online poker for…

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Trauma, Stress Disorders, and The Brain

The human brain is the command central for the body. At birth, it is by far the most undifferentiated organ, and it possesses the ability to create new neural circuity for the remainder of an individual’s life. Newfound knowledge regarding life-long plasticity (based on advances in neuroscience which began in the early 90s), have continued…