money and men

Money and Manhood

Since American social constructs came to be, the male has been deemed the breadwinner; the hard worker, the provider, the protector. The father-figure kisses his wife and heads to work, leaving her to tend after the children as he puts in the long hours necessary to bringing hoe the bacon. Of course, in recent times,…

finding something believe

Finding Something to Believe In

When someone asks you what you believe in, where does your mind initially go? When I hear that question, I involuntarily begin drawing religious associations. My mind veers straight towards God. And while answering such an open-ended question with such a non-specific answer may seem appropriate, I am inclined to search a bit deeper than…

childhood trauma divorce

The Role of Divorce in Childhood Trauma

No one gets married with the intention of getting divorce. Unfortunately, many harmonious unions collapse in a short matter of years – in fact, it is estimated that nearly half of all first marriages will end in divorce. The median duration of first marriages for both men and women is right below the 8-year mark;…

familial trauma control

How Controlling Parents Shape Our Adult Selves

When I was a freshman in high school, I remember being embarrassed to bring any friends over to the house. “My parents aren’t… cool,” I used to explain. “They’re super strict and controlling.” And I did, sincerely, believe that they were probably the most controlling and uncompromising couple of old kooks in town. After all,…

why we rebel

Why We Rebel

We were all teenagers at one point or another, blighted by the insubordinate angst that seemed to go hand-in-hand with adolescence. In fact, rebellion can be considered one of the most indisputable characteristics of the teenage years – and it is one guaranteed to cause quite a bit of conflict on the home front. Rebellion,…

men and trauma

Men and Fear of Intimacy

When we think of fear of intimacy, we tend to think of experiencing discomfort in emotionally vulnerable relationships. Most of us experience this discomfort on some level or another; opening up emotionally can be quite difficult, especially for those of us who have been hurt in the past. And most of us have been hurt,…