Enmeshed maternal relationship

Smotherhood

EXAMINING THE DYSFUNCTIONAL MATERNAL RELATIONSHIP Everyone has a mother. They bring us into the world, give us care and comfort in our earliest days, and guide us as we develop and grow. Almost without exception, we can rely upon our mothers to worry about us, to look out for and care about us, and to…

Size Matters

Next Chapter finds the “sweet spot” for effective treatment It is not uncommon to find those who believe that “bigger is better.” After all, American society has long celebrated the superlative, which has creating a culture of excess that strongly contributes to the occurrence of drug, alcohol, and other dependencies. The more conscientious message of…

Family Treatment VS Family Program

Next Chapter’s Systemic Approach to Treating Dependencies Family Matters It is a well-accepted fact within the recovery community that you cannot effectively treat the addicted without the involvement of their families. Often, family members are the unintentional enablers or triggers for the behaviors that led to dependency to begin with. However, it is also these…

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Dealing with an Addicted Loved One Over the Holidays

The holiday season can be stressful in and of itself. Presents to purchase, wrap, and ship off (after waiting for hours in the unmoving lines at the local post office). Dinner parties to organize, cook for, and clean up after (after mediating booze-fueled arguments between politically opinionated family members). Add an active addiction to the…

sobriety-recovery

How to Stay Sober on Turkey Day

No doubt about it – the holidays, while maybe the most wonderful time of the year, can also be the most stressful. Planning feasts, choosing the perfect presents, and compiling a lengthy list of resolutions… it can all be a bit overwhelming. We may pile our plates too high entirely, or feel obligated to participate…

healthy communication

Healthy Communication and Secure Attachment

We tend to think of communication as an inherent skill; an innate ability that each of us acquires as soon as we exit the womb. In some sense, this is true. We know to cry when we’re hungry or uncomfortable, to laugh when we’re pleased, and to reach out our arms when we want to…

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The Generational Pattern of Codependency

Most of our behaviors are learned, and are passed down generationally as a result. Our individuality begs us to believe that we are entirely autonomous; that we choose to be how we are, and that we develop based on these choices. Of course, if we honestly break down the majority of our emotional and behavioral…

enabling

Am I an Enabler?

The concept of enabling may seem somewhat straightforward – when we enable a loved one, we do for others what they need (and can) do for themselves. However, it can be exceptionally difficult to determine the difference between supporting, assisting, and enabling – especially when loved ones are involved. Parents are biologically hardwired to want…

familial trauma control

How Controlling Parents Shape Our Adult Selves

When I was a freshman in high school, I remember being embarrassed to bring any friends over to the house. “My parents aren’t… cool,” I used to explain. “They’re super strict and controlling.” And I did, sincerely, believe that they were probably the most controlling and uncompromising couple of old kooks in town. After all,…